Jaiden Lyndi Tlapa lost her courageous battle for life this morning at Boston Children's Hospital. Please know that in a way our prayers were answered, just not in the way we hoped. Jaiden is running free now with no pain and infection, and she has spread her new wings to take the most glorious flight imaginable.
We are saddened beyond words for our loss. Jaiden has touched our family and this world in such a profound and beautiful way; she will never be forgotten.
We thank each one of you for your faith, love, support, and constant prayers. Please keep alive whatever inner strength and spark that Jaiden has ignited in you. Her life had meaning beyond true comprehension for so many of us. Our job now is to keep her memory alive and incorporate the lessons she has taught us all into our daily lives.
We ask that you respect our privacy at this most difficult time. We will plan a public memorial service to celebrate Jaiden's life at some point. Once we have chosen a date and location we will post this information. But the first celebration of Jaiden's extraordinary life will be private, for immediate family only.
Peace be with you all.
~The Tlapa Family
A friend sent this poem to me last week, I wanted to share it with you all.
Do not stand at my grave and weepI'm not there
I do not sleep,
I am a 1000 winds that blow,
I am the diamond glimpse of snow;
I am the sunlight on ripened green,
I am the gentle autumns rain,
Do not stand at my grave and cry,I am not there,
I did not die.
Monday, January 14, 2008
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 365 of 365So very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.
Kristen (Manchester)
I am so sorry for your loss.Jaiden is with God, but will be near you forever.
I am so sorry for your loss. Even here in Ohio, I have shared Jaiden's story with my coworkers and patients. We are all saddened by the loss of such a young beautiful girl. I did not know her, but reading everyone's comments lets me know that she was an extraordinary young lady.
My deepest condolences to the Tlapa family.
I am in complete shock. I guess I was ultimately hoping for the best. I never met little Jaiden, but my little cousin, Addie, was such close buddies with her. I've kept Jaiden in my thoughts for the past few weeks and hoped that you would not have to endure this unbelieveable pain. Seeing the pictures of her at Addie's birthday helping her with the pogo stick, it's just hard to believe that she's now gone. I am so close to tears right now. I'll ask my mom to keep an eye on her since she was Addie's buddy. She'll definitely stay out of trouble then.
One of the songs I keep in my mind in such situations is "To Where You Are" by Josh Groban:
Fly me up to where you are beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight to see you smile
If only for a while to know you're there
A breath away's not far to where you are
Such a beautiful song and truly for anyone you've lost. Our family's thoughts and prayers go out to the whole Tlapa family in hopes you can stay strong.
Leeanne Hubbard
North Dighton, MA
There are no words that will help ease your grief, but please know you are all in my heart and prayers.
God speed sweet Jaiden.
Lisa Y (Texas)
Your entire family is in our prayers and hearts. Few words can describe what you are all going through with your tragic loss. Jaiden, your daughter, became the whole community's little girl. We all want our children to make a difference in the world somehow. Even though her time was cut tragically short, try to take comfort in knowing that your daughter brought out the best in people while she was here.
You don't know me, we have never met, but that is what makes your family - your daughter - so inspirational, so powerful. As you humbly search for an answer to that ever present question why,let me share with you the following.
Jaiden - You are a hero. You are forever loved, appreciated and admired. We pray for you:
Heavenly Father, watch over your child Jaiden and grant us the power to eternally reflect on the message of strength, family and love that she so endearingly sent so many. Amen.
Selflessly you allowed us into your life and taught us the most valuable of lessons. Rest now.
Love,
Gifford, Sandra, Jordan and Austin Hiscoe
To the Tlapa Family,
While we don't know your family intimately, our youngest son played soccer with Jaiden and we were able to watch a such a beautiful girl radiate with joy and happiness each week. We offer you all our deepest condolences and send to you our support and prayers during this most difficult time. Jaiden taught our family about kindness and love and how powerful one can be in bringing us all - as a family, as a community, and as people - together. She is a soldier of love and the world is a greater place because of her.
With deepest sympathy,
The MacKenzies
Mont Vernon, NH
Jaiden has opened up so many people hearts and minds. Jaiden has been able to show how precious and wonderful life is! Jaiden will be remembered in our family's hearts!
Daunte, Ashley, Whitney and Jean Lamarre
My thoughts are the same as all of the others and there are no words to express my sadness for your family. Please know that sharing her story through this blog has touched me. Although I never met her I now know that Jaiden was a wonderful child and that the love from her family and friends is tremendous. I truly believe that her spirit will always be with you and she will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Alyson (Boston)
Through the Grace of God, we noticed the most perfectly formed, beautiful snowflakes on our gloves last night. Thank you. We're listening, Jaiden.
what a special little girl to bring so many people together,with everyones,heart felt concerns for you and your family.our hearts ache for the entire Tlapa family.
sydnei,keegan,kelly and scott lewis
colorado
Dear Tlapa family
I am so sorry for your loss. I will forever think of you and pray for you. Jaiden gave it her best but she must have been sent to us for a reason. I know to me she taught me not to take life for granted and the people around you that you love and also love you in return. We are only given 1 life and we have to make the best of it and live it to our fullest potential.. I will always think of Jaiden and know that she is watching down on all of us. Again I'm sorry for your loss but Jaiden will forever live in your hearts.
Sincerely The Cote family
Words just can't express how sorry we are for you and your family. Jaiden has touched so many lives and I am sure will continue to. PLease accept our deepest sympathies and know you will all continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.
The Federico Family
When trouble comes to the soul to try
You love the friend who just stands by
Perhaps there is nothing he can do
The thing is strictly up to you
For there are troubles all your own
And paths that the soul must tread alone
Times when love cannot smooth the road
Nor friendship lift the heavy load
But just to know you have a friend
Who will stand by until the end
Whose sympathy through all endures
Whose warm hand clasp is always yours
It helps someway to pull you through
Although there is nothing, he can do
And with fervent heart you cry
GOD bless the friend who just 'STANDS BY'
Words can not express our sorrow for you loss. Hold on tight to each other for together is where you will find strength.
Joyce and Brant Wilson
May God comfort your family at this time. You are in my prayers.
It hurts.
We greive.
We hope.
We pray.
We question why.
Again and again and again.
We will never know why you were taken from your family, and this life, so young.
But you have touched us without even meaning to.
And you have changed us without even trying.
And if you were given the choice you would not even have wanted to. Not in this way.
Who would?
But God works in mysterious ways.
And he has bigger plans for you. Your life and death were not in vain.
And you will touch us again, and again, and again.
And we will always remember you, although we may never have known you.
You are no longer an angel of this earth.
Tears in Heaven.
You are now an angel of God.
God Bless You and your family.
A Father
Dear Tlapa and Ciardelli families;
Our deepest sympathies are with you all. There are no words that even begin to describe the pain of losing a child.
Even though our family had never met Jaiden, it is obvious she is very special. Reading these messages was just awe-inspiring. All one has to do is look at all the people who knew her, and those that had never even met her, that came together to give her prayer support. We feel sure that Jaiden will live on through your memories and in your hearts.
KY
May God Bless and keep you all close at this time of unspeakable sorrow. Jaiden you are an angel.
Lisa (Milford)
Goodbye little Jaiden. Although I never had the chance to meet you, I miss you very much.
Pamela
I am so sorry.
Paul, Holleigh,and family,
I or I should say we cannot even begin to find the right words to say how sorry we are for your loss of sweet Jaiden. She along with all of you will always remain in our hearts and prayers.
Sean,Kathy,Andrew,& Mary Donovan
Holleigh, Paul and Family,
We are so sad after hearing of your loss. Jaiden was a beautiful little girl with an amazing spirit. Your little angel has touched us and so many others in such a deep and personal way, and we will continue to hold you all in our thoughts and prayers.
With love and sympathy,
Terry & Michael
May Jaiden rest in peace, and may god give us all strength to understand this horrific tragedy. May your family always see her smile on the brightest of sunny days, in the downpour of rain, and all days in between. She will live in spirit for eternity. She moved a community like none other.
We are so sorry for your loss. You are in our hearts and prayers.
Courtney
JAIDEN
J is for the JOY you have brought
to your family.
A is for the ANGEL you are.
I is for INSPIRING all of us to
be better people.
D is for the DOLPHINS that you
love.
E is for EVERLASTING love to your
friends and family.
N is for NEVER forgetting you!
JAIDEN you will be missed beyond words. Not only from your family and friends but from all those who have heard such wonderful things about you.
May you rest sweet Jaiden.
All my love to you and your family
cheryl grigas
Dear Tlapa Family,
My family's thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time. I can not express how sorry I am for your loss.
Jaiden will remain in our thoughts and prayers for a long time to come.
The Casali Family
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my 9 year old sister 29 years ago on Christmas Day. A short time later I came across this poem and have saved it ever since. I pulled it out a couple of weeks ago to pass along to a couple I know from our local Youth Soccer program who lost their 8 year old son. I would like to share it with you also.
"I'll lend you for a little while,
a child of mine" God said,
"for you to love there while she lives,
and mourn for when she's dead.
It may be two or three short years,
or twenty-two or three,
but will you, till I call her back,
take care of her for me?
She'll bring her charms to gladden you,
and should her stay be brief,
you'll have her lovely memories
as solace for your grief.
I cannot promise she will stay,
since all from earth return,
but there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over
in my search for teacher's true,
and from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you.
Now will you give her all your love?
Nor think the labor vain?
Nor hate me when I come to call,
to take her back again?"
God fancied he heard the parent's say,
"Dear Lord, thy will be done.
For all the joy the child shall bring,
the risk of grief I'll run.
I'll shelter her with tenderness,
I'll love her while I may,
and for the happiness I've known
forever grateful I'll stay.
But should the angels call for her,
much sooner than I planned,
I'll brave the bitter grief that comes,
and try to understand."
~author unknown
God bless your family! You are in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our daughter 5 years ago and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her. I am praying for an extra measure of peace and love from our Father of all comforts for you and your family.
Tlapa Family,
When I heard the news I was absolutley devastated, I didn't know what to say. Right now her hurting has just ended, but our hurting has just begun. In time it will get easier. She will never be forgotten, and be loved forever. She touched so many people.
always loved, always will be.
Love always,
Anika
Jaiden,
May you touch us all for the rest of our time on this great earth the way you have while here for 8+ years. You have been a blessed angel to each and everyone of us, whether we knew your or not.
Without knowing me or many of us personally, you have given the greatest gifts one could ever ask for. You've taught us many lessons that we all tend to take for granted all to often.
First and foremost, the value of human life; in a world where it is constantly waivering. Your lesson taught us that life truly is "precious" and to cherish each and every moment we have with friends and family.
Second, The importance of family and family values; to comfort and shelter each of us when it is needed the most.
And last, The power of community; We are all stronger people today because of your willingness to sacrifice & bring us together. Thank you for that sacrifice so that we may all know not only our friends; but our neighbors, the police & fire officers who come to our aide in times of peril, and all others in between on a better, more personal & respectful level. You have brought us together as a community like never before. Your spirit will live strong forever in the days and events that lie ahead for many lifetimes to come.
Although we all wish you could have stayed here with us on this earth, we also realize that
you have more important work to do, a greater calling, and will always be here in spirit with each and every one of us.
You may be gone, but you will never be forgotten.
The Bilodeau's (Scott, Janine, Dakota & Sophia)
She was a beautiful child and now a beautiful angel,and from the pictures here, it seems she had a wonderful full life and family. I will never forget her face and how she touched us all. She was meant for far better things and I believe she is at peace waching over you all.
God Bless you and may you find comfort in each other and the memory of that sweet beautiful angel.
Nela Fula
Saugus, Ma
Holleigh, Paul, Alexeigh, Aspen, and Gage,
Without even knowing them, Jaiden has touched more lives than anyone could ever have imagined. She has made an impact on this community that will last a lifetime. She is certainly an angel sent from heaven. Please know that your community will continue to surround you in love and prayers as you endure this sad time. I read this poem and thought that if Jaiden could speak to you one last time, this is what she would say.
Daddy, please don't look so sad,
Mama please don't cry~
"Cause I am in the arms of Jesus
and He sings me lullabies."
Please, try not to question God,
Don't think he is unkind
Don't think He sent me to you,
and then He changed his mind.
You see, I am a special child,
and I'm needed up above
I'm the special gift you gave Him,
the product of your love.
I'll always be there with you
and watch the sky at night,
Find the brightest star that's gleaming,
That's my halo's brilliant light.
You'll see me in the morning frost,
that mists your window pane.
That's me in the summer showers,
I'll be dancing in the rain.
When you feel a little breeze,
from a gentle wind that blows
That's me, I'll be there,
planting a kiss on your nose.
When you see a child playing,
and your heart feels a little tug,
That's me, I'll be there,
giving your heart a hug.
So Daddy, please don't look so sad,
Mama don't you cry.
I'm in the arms of Jesus
and He sings me lullabies.
Author~Claudette T. Allen
We too have lost a child yrs. ago. I pray that God gives you His Eternal perspective on this. Time heals. You don't forget, but the future (eternity) is our hope. Trust in Him, hold on to that hope.
Dear Tlapa Family, Extended Family, School Friends, Teachers and Family Friends....
We live in N.C. now but lived for many years in N.H. We heard about Jaidens accident through a family member who became friendly with the Tlapa Family through their children...A Miracle Flies...
I know that one day this Blog site may no longer be posted but what a Wonderful memory for you to have and a Special Tribute of how little Jaiden helped to spread so much joy throughout the Land near and far...A Miracle Flies...
I myself never had the opportunity to meet Jaiden or to know any of you personally but consider myself fortunate to have learned so much about Jaiden, see her sweet face and watch pictures on a beautiful slide show each and everyday. She is so Precious...A Miracle Flies...
Throughout Jaidens Courageous and Strong battle she gave back so much to others, in helping people to Pray everyday, attend church again regularly for the first time in 7 months, Smile more often while bringing many people all over the world closer together
...A Miracle Flies...
Although I do not have faces to put with the names that posted on this Blog they also gave so many Smiles, peace and warmth back to all of us who read the post in Jaidens name
...A Miracle Flies...
I will always remember the wonderful stories and the postings that I looked forward to each and every day from Jacqueline,The Griggs, Aunt Wendy,The Carsons,Ms. Dilley,Ms.Grigas,Coach Mike, Friends at Heron pond and will definitely miss all The "Recess Talks"...A Miracle Flies...
So In Closing, Please know the Joy, the smiles, the Peace and the comfort that Jaiden helped deliver to so many people around the world
...A Miracle Flies...
If there is such truth to what Mitch Albom writes "The Five people you meet in Heaven" then I sure will pray that Jaiden will become one of mine
...A Miracle Flies... and we will see you then Jaiden...Fly Free Little Butterfly…Fly Free....
Our Prayers are with all of you
The Bricker Family
I've never met you, but I know that a sweet Angel is keeping us all safe.
Prayers to your whole family at this time.
I feel so bad for the Tlapa family.
My brother has a friend named Ali in his class.He says that she is Jaiden`s cousin.He is in 1st grade.
I hope Jaiden is happy she is in no pain.My friend Elayna is so sad Jaiden is gone because Jaiden was on her softball team.My other friend Madison is also so sad. I still pray for Jaiden.I am sad yet happy Jaiden has spread her wings.I am happy because she is no longer suffering pain in the hospital.My heart will never forget Jaiden...
Meghan Marshall
Dear Jaiden's family I hope you are doing good.I am speechless, how sorry I am about your loss. We are just so so sad.
Love,
Jaidens classmate - Michael
We're friends of Mrs Bishop who made us aware of what had happened to you all last year.
Today, for some inexplicable reason I was drawn to check on how Jaiden was doing and was saddened to read what I did.
From all that we are in our souls and in our hearts I wish you all peace at this time and moving forward.
R&S MA
At 34 years old, I have met many people. Many people that left a tremendous impact on my life, but nobody has left the impact that little Jaiden Tlapa has left.
Jaiden was one of the students that was on my bus when I drove a few years ago. From the 1st day that I met Jaiden, there was just something "special" about her. With a smile that could make you forget your worries, and words that would always brighten your day. I just knew Jaiden would accomplish great things.
When I left the bus company, I would still run into Jaiden around town. I was ALWAYS greeted with a big hug and an ever bigger smile. She always had a silly story to tell, and I would always smile after our run ins. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one to feel this way.
On December 21st, when I got the news about Jaiden, I was crushed. How could she be hurt? This is someone I know, and these things only happen to other people. There was just no way this could be true. She had so much to offer, she was going to accomplish great things.
In the past 3 1/2 weeks, I have seen an entire community come together to rally around the Tlapa family. I have met people that otherwise I never would have known. I have received emails, phone calls, and mail from people wanting to do their part. The messages left on the blog have been incredible. Complete strangers have opened their hearts and shared their stories. I guess it is true, Jaiden did accomplish great things. In the words of her mother Holleigh "The miracle of Jaiden is the faith and hope that she restored in a family, a community, a town, a state, a nation, and even at this point the world". Holleigh is correct, and Jaiden truly did accomplish great things.
Paul and Holleigh, I am eternally grateful to the both of you for sharing Jaiden with me. I know that the loss of Jaiden will not be in vain. I am looking forward to the "great things" that will done in the name of Jaiden.
xo,
Jacqueline
I second that Jacqueline. You said it beautifully!
cheryl g
To The Tlapa Family,
I am so very sorry for your loss... Jaiden has touched so many people both near and afar. Someone once told me when I lost my Dad that He wasn't able to watch over all his children and grandchildren etc. and keep them safe while here on this earth so He went on to a better place , one where he was given beautiful wings and could be where each one of us needed him at a moments notice , a place where he would stay young ang healthy forever. Keep beautiful Jaiden alive in all of you , through pictures , memories and dreams , no one can take those away.
Trisha Fuhs
May you be at peace, sweet girl.
I have kept you all in my thoughts and prayers every day since the night we met at Children's Hospital. I'm very sad and sorry to hear that she died today. Now I hope all the love and support of your family friends and community will strengthen and sustain you in the days ahead. I share with you the trust that Jaiden’s bright and luminous spirit, all her loves and delights, all that made her the one-of-a-kind creature she was now lives on in God. May the Lord bless you and keep you in all the days ahead.
Peace, Ross Goodman, Chaplain, Children's Hospital Boston
Dear Tlapa Family,
Our thoughts and prayers go out to you as they have each and every day since this heartbreaking tragedy. Sadly, we did not have the privilege to meet Jaiden, but she will remain in our hearts as an amazing little girl as we have learned from all her family and friends. May God grant you strength, love, and peace to get through this difficult time.
We are so sorry for your loss.
The Goodspeed Family ~
Sonny, Betty, Emma, and Chloie
A beautiful poem someone wrote to the family of a friend that also died too young. God Bless.
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2008
I just wanted to extend my deepest sympathies to you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers through this extremely difficult time.
Holleigh, Paul, Alexeigh, Aspen, and Gage,
Although Jaiden is in a beautiful place now, my heart aches for all of you. Being the mom of a 7-year-old daughter myself, I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through.
Please know that you continue to be in my prayers and in my thoughts.
Renee (Bissonnette)
Coxsackie NY
My deepest condolences. God love Jaiden.
Holleigh and Family--
My mother's heart reaches out to you--but it is clear that you are people of strong faith. Let the Lord wrap His arms around you and comfort you through this impossibly difficult time. My girls and I are praying for you, along with, no doubt, thousands of others. Let those prayers carry you all through. The love that Jaiden has left behind is palpable on these pages. Hold on to and treasure it. God bless and keep you all.
Lori H and girls
Dear Tlapa family,
The sky was so dark on my way to school this morning until I crested Temple Mtn.. There was a clearly defined line of dark and light. A beautiful sunrise over Milford and I smiled feeling the presence of Jaiden. One day you will find peace. I know Jaiden will never be far from you and she will never be far from those of us who knew her. Thank you for allowing me to be part of her life!
Sincerely,
Miss Dilley
Our hearts ache for you and your family, Holleigh.
May you find the warmth and peace offered by the entire community of faith that has truly risen to help you through this most difficult time. We are deeply moved by the outpouring of support by so many local families, businesses, and agencies, including Milford Fire and Milford EMS.
Our Sympathy,
The Kass Family
Tlapa Family,
Oh how my heart aches for all of you at this most difficult time.
I pray those closest to you can bring you the comfort you so need.
Holleigh, Samantha is there to embrace Jaiden, I know it. They watch over us all, together, hand in hand.
Like her passing, may the following poem bring you all comfort with the passage of time...
"I'd like the memory of me to a be a happy one.
I'd like to leave an afterglow of smiles when life is done.
I'd like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways of happy times, and laughing times, on bright sunny days.
I'd like the tears of those who grieve to dry before the sun of happy memories that I leave when life is done."
May our words, love and prayers surround you now and comfort you.
Michelle in Massachusetts
I can't imagine the pain that you are in nor can I imagine the pain that you will live with as time goes on. Yet, I know that somehow you will do miraculous things because of her.
Your loss is unimaginable and it pains my heart to even consider what you are going through. Our pain pales in comparison to yours and yet it hurts so badly. At times in the past few weeks, it was hard to breathe, sleep or eat. Yet, I accept that pain as a gift, because to have never felt this pain is to have never known and loved Jaiden.
Thank you for the many great gifts you have given to this world by bringing this beautiful child into this world. Our love for her will never end, our hearts will never mend, our memories will never fade. Jaiden will never be forgotton, rather cherished for all of the days of our lives.
The Griggs
Yesterday I cried a lot, today a little less. I know as each day passes our tears will lessen but the beautiful memories of Jaiden will never fade. We will all go forward and hopefully continue to take time to love a little more, care a little more deeply and help a little more frequently. By doing this each day Jaiden's spirit will live forever. I can promise you that I will honor Jaiden in this way.
Peace be with you.
- a friend
My most heartfelt sympathies to all of you. I too lost a child many years ago and feel your devasting pain/sorrow. There are no words that can ease your hurt at this moment. Only time can help and knowing that she is with God in Heaven. Jaiden was a lucky little girl to belong to such wonderful parents and have such a close loving family. She will be in your hearts and memories forever.
I would like to share this poem:
Courageous Angel
I held her hand so fragile so small
Looked at her smiling glowing for all
I held back tears, chooked all emotion
Knowing well her strength, devotion
A few years she'd lived so much to see
Yet so much love she'd gave to me
Life's so precious we never yet know
When we're born or when we're to go
So hold on to those you love and then
Cherish each day to the full then when
Life calls one away and it's time to go
They'll carry love in their heart and so
You know their days at life's final call
Were not in vain nor once wasted at all
If one so young can reflect such strength
So too can we, go the extra mile or length.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
The LaBarge Family
To the Tlapa Family,
Right now Jaiden is in the best place she can be. She will get to see her great, great, great grandparents. At night when I say my prayers I like to tell Jaiden what I did today. I miss her very much and I know that you miss her most of all.
Love,
KJ
"I'll lend you for a little time a child of Mine," He said,
"For you to love the while he lives and mourn for when she's dead,
It may be six or twelve years, or twenty-two or three,
But will you, till I call her back, take care of her for Me?
She will bring her charms to gladden you, and shall her stay be brief
You'll have her lovely memories as solace for your grief.
"I cannot promise she will stay, since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there I want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over in my search for teachers true
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes - I have selected you.
Now will you give her all your love, nor think this labor vain,
Nor hate me when I come to call to take my precious angel back again?"
I fancied that I heard them say, "Dear Lord, Thy will be done."
For all the joy Thy child shall bring, the risk of grief we'll run.
We will shelter her with tenderness, we will love her while we may
And for the happiness we've known forever grateful stay;
But shall the angels call for her much sooner than we've planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand.
~I can not express to you how much myself feels a lingering pain for Sweet Angel Jaiden...
It is hard to think she is so young, to cross the roads of heaven alone... but God & the angels are there loving here, in his righteous, caring home.
All of you are in my thoughts and prayers... I have been following your story with my fiance Bill and we are just so at loss for words. We hope in time your hearts will heal and know your precious angel will always be with you. I am extremly artistic and crafty and if there is anything I can do to help to create in Jaiden's Memory - all you need is ask..
One door closes, and another one opens... we do not know what is forthcoming but always remember what laid behind your very last door.
No words can express how deeply sorry we are for your loss. She will forever be remembered.
Meeta and Family
I can't imagine losing my little girl. Please know that your family is in my thoughts and Jaiden lives on in the hearts of those she touched...
Dear Tlapa Family,
Please know a whole community holds you in their thoughts,hearts and prayers.
The Kallfelz Family
Our heartfelt prayers continue for you and your extended family. We’re so sorry for the loss of your sweet Jaiden. May you take comfort in knowing that she’s with her Heavenly Father now. Thank you for allowing us, through the blog, to take this difficult journey with you. It gave many of us a chance to get to know your precious daughter. She will forever be in our hearts.
With Love,
The Austins
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Jaiden is forever in our hearts.
The Calabria Family
Just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and my continued prayers.
Jacqueline - Thank you for establishing and maintaining this Blog. It has been tremendously helpful not only in conveying my thoughts and prayers to Jaiden and her family, but in reading the many posts, it is really helping me process the tragedy, loss and now - hope. My thanks to you and prayers for the Tlapa Family.
I am SO very sorry. I lost a son 6 yrs ago- my daughters did help me get thru it, but the empty spot in your heart never quite goes away. It will slowly get easier though, I promise you.
My prayers are with you and your family
We watched your family and we want to send our deepest condolences. Your pain looked so deep and we only hope that time helps you. Stay strong, your beautiful family has touched our lives forever. We are just another set of parents grieving with you from a distance on 7 South.
God Bless You
The angels are always near to those who are grieving, to whisper to them that their loved ones are safe in the hand of God. ~Quoted in The Angels' Little Instruction Book by Eileen Elias Freeman, 1994
Our hearts ache for you.
We pray that you find peace.
Dear Jaiden,
I know that if you could see Milford right now, you'd be so happy. Everyone has pulled together and we all still pray for you and your family. God just couldn't resist having such a beautiful angel around! :D We all ask why did it have to end so soon? Why did it have to end like this? But I am so proud that you held on and touched so many hearts in that mere 3 1/2 weeks you had left. It is better this way. Now your wings aren't suffocated behind those machines. The air systems are now gone revealing your halo.
The second I had heard about your terrible news, a balloon I had been bouncing sank along with my heart. It was then that I realized that indeed you were like a balloon that is desperately being kept in the air.
The balloon is being kept up only by 2 things. The air in it and the support underneath it. The balloon has it's highest points, yet decreases progress at the same time. However, it doesn't matter if you get all the people in the world to help, nothing can soar so freely forever. Jaiden, all over the world we were praying for you. The hospital kept you from leaving us sooner. Some signs you showed us were really hopeful but as it is, What goes up, Must come down.
Although we never met, my heart aches as if I'd known you forever. If I could have, I'd have given you the love and cherishing that you deserved before your time of need. Please don't feel so sad about leaving us. The sadness should only be in our hearts. Jaiden Lyndi Tlapa is a memorable name containing such beauty, Joy, and Gifts. God will provide you with a life bountiful with happiness. He will take care of you.
I don't care how long it takes for me to stop crying..... As long as I know that Milford's hero is watching over us as a quardian angel.
I love you Jaiden!
Please promise you'll guide me and all of the rest of us who know you'll live on forever.
God answered our prayers, but in a way least expected.
With all faith and love,
Kylee Winnett
Milford Middle School
I will wonder when I gaze up above if the glissing brightness I see is what they call stars or is it really Jaiden's glowing as she looks down at us from heaven. I certainly will continue my prayers with both Jaiden and her siblings. Children let out your feeling talk often with your parents. You will find that you all are feeling the lose of not having your sweet Angel Jaiden. May you all find strenght from those around you. We are always here for any of you.
God Bless.
Dear Tlapa family,
I have never met you but share with you an understanding of how deep your sorrow is as I also lost a beloved family member in a tragic accident. I spent many years wondering Why? and finally realized I would probably never find an answer to that question. I did ,however, come to see that the deep pain and suffering from the loss became overcome by knowing how blessed I was to have been lucky enough to have this person in my life. It has been many years and ther are times when I am still overcome with grief, but there are also many times when I am able to relive all of the good, fun times we had, and I find great comfort in that. God bless you all.
I know Jaiden is upon us.I know God will take care of her.Even though I did not know Jaiden,she is a brave and strong girl.I am sorry for your loss.But Jaiden is now an angel that is free.God knew he was missing an angel.He let her free.We all miss Jaiden and will never forget her.Even the people that did not know her.All of our hearts are broken for the loss of Jaiden.She was a sweet girl.The message you wrote was so sad I cryed reading it.I am speechless for Jaiden and barly talk to my friends about her.I can barly sleep at night because I think about Jaiden.I have dreams that she is here by our sides without a scratch.I can`t concentrate in school well.Jaiden is still with us in our hearts.She will never leave us.I love Jaiden and I had a donation box at the boys and girls club for her and I still do so the Tlapa family can hold an event.Jaiden will never be forgotting from my family and friends.The conditions she was in weren`t that great anyways.She will be in my life forever.Jadien is missed everywhere.Everyone that knows is probably really sad.At girlscouts we made a card for her.The problem was it was 4 days before she spread her wings.I know Jaiden misses all of us and is looking down at us right now,knowing how sad we are for her loss.We all feel bad for the Tlapa family at this time.Jaiden is missed at softball and soccer.Even at school.The news about Jaiden is all over New England.I cryed when I heard that Jaiden died.I hate to hear stuff that happens like that.Even though I don`t know the Tlapa family I know Jaiden was a very courageous girl.Her smile is bright and she is happy she is not in pain,but she is sad she is not with her friends and family.I know she wishes she was here,but God brought her to the place she needed to be in.May her heart shine down on all of us today and forever...
I can't begin to express how truly sorry I am for this heart breaking loss. My daughter was two doors down from Jaiden at Children's Hospital and my family and I prayed for her as we prayed for our Hannah each and every day that we remained there. As we were discharged home we continued to check the blog in hopes that soon Jaiden would have the same happy homecoming. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you and with your sweet little girl.
The Pelletier's
Dear Tlapa family,
I had a lot of fun playing with Jaiden on the Green Sox team. I am so sad and sorry for your loss. I have never lost a friend like Jaiden before and it's been hard. But I know that Jaiden is free and I look up in the sky at the playground and know that she is with God, watching over us.
Love,Elayna Gardner
I can only imagine the pain that you are all going through, but forever and ever will Jaiden be rememberd. She has touched so many lives, more then I probly ever will in my life time. How much faith she gave everyone. I know that when ever I need someone to talk to I can talk to her. I know shell always listen. Shes now a beautiful angel who has spread her wings, and is in an amazing place and not feeling any pain. I am so thankful to be able to have known such an amazing little girl like her. Everyday since I found out about the news, I have not gotten her out of my mind. Ive been crying alot but I know that is just cause I loved her so much and so sorry for your loss. This shows me that to treat my sisters better and the ones around me. I think it is making me a better sister and person. I am more thankful for what I have. I was writing a poem for Jaiden, but am not done with it yet. Christina, and some other friends of mine were thinking about making a collage of her and things that she liked and hang it in our rooms so we will always have those pictures of her. I love you all and you are all in my prayers.
Love Always,
Brittany Griggs.
Holleigh and Paul,
I have been sharing Jaiden's story with my friends and family for weeks now...but on Christmas Eve I shared it with one friend in particular, who has a knack for dreaming about things before they occur...only to speak of them aloud and have them truly happen. This morning she called to ask if I was feeling any better. She then told me she had a dream about Jaiden last night...she went on to comment that it was a beautiful, relaxing and peaceful dream. Jaiden was iridescent and bright (beautiful) and floating above her and the most remarkable thing she remembered was how happy she was. She said when she woke up she was amazed at how calm and relieved she felt. I thought you might want to know about this dream. I know it brought me comfort.
Peacefully,
Deanna
I am so sorry for your loss, Jaiden was such a pretty little girl. My heart breaks for you. God bless you.
Erin (MA)
Spread your wings and fly butterfly!
Your beauty has touched us all.
Your wings so very delicate,
But your spirit conquers all.
You've given us so much on earth
But God now reclaims his prize.
Spread your wings and fly butterfly!
Let your colors brighten the sky.
We will miss you dearly,but your
Transition is complete.
Your wings are now an angle's
To your savior go to meet.
Spread your wings and FLY,butterfly!
By Amy Van Derzee
~I'm Free~
Dont grieve for me, for now I'm free
I'm following the path God laid for me
I took his hand when I heard Him call
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day,
To laugh, to love to work or play
Tasks left undone must stay that way
I found that peace at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void then
Fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss-
These are things I too will miss.
Be not burdened in times of sorrow,
I wish you the sunshine of tommorow.
My life's been full, I've savored much,
Good friends, good times, a loved one's touch,
Perhaps my time seemed all to brief.
Don't lenghthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your hearts and peace to thee.....
God wanted me now. He set me free!
Thinking of your family each and every day and praying for peace and strength in your hearts. God will help you through this.
We sit here in tears for a little girl we never met, but know that she has a wonderful Aunt and Uncle. We cannot express how sorry we are for the pain that you all are experiencing right now.
I just know that your little girl is just dancing across the heavens as we speak, playing with all the other little angels in heaven.
God Bless Jaiden and God Bless your family.
Bryan, Kristin, Hannah, Brennan, Declan and Finn Ward
Dear Tlapa Family:
I know no words can ease the pain you feel as parents or her siblings can begin to understand the meaning of why this would happen. Unfortunately I can understand how the family feels since my brother died when I was 7 and my father died when I was 16. Time does heal all wounds but your family will never forget what Jaiden meant to everyone as a daughter, sister and friend.
I realized where I had seen Jaiden for the first time since learning of this tragic event. My boys and I were looking at some soccer pictures on the MCAA website to see who was playing this year. I remember looking at Jaidens picture and thinking this beautiful girl was practicing with such passion, intensity, concentration, skill, grace while having fun and looking the part of a precious angel. From what I have learned about Jaiden, I think that picture not only captured her image but captured her soul.
My daughter turned one in September. I hope some day I can capture one photo of her that impresses on others, what you know in your hearts.
Have Faith
The Pare Family
Mike, Kristen, Weston, Jameson and Addyson
(Milford)
Dear Holleigh and Paul,
We are feeling so blessed to have known Jaiden. We remember her contagious laughter, bright smile, and fiesty spirit. She touched our hearts in ways we will never forget. The way she inspired this community(and beyond)is truly a miracle. May your faith guide you.
Sue, Margaret, and Meredith
I am so very sorry for your loss. I don't know what your faith is or what you believe but I hope you do have something to believe in.
I can tell you that I lost a mother and a father and I don't know what it is like to bury a child. The closest I came was burying my niece who was 4 years old and drown in her parents bath tub.
I only bring that up so that I can remind you that no matter what YOU did or someone else did - when you are up against GOD - he will always win. HIS plans are not for us to know. Question things - yes. Stop believing? I hope not.
Be strong with each other. Try not to fall victim to blame, regret and sorrow. Rejoice in her life and celebrate that she is now with Jesus.
Bless you~
My heart breaks for the entire Tlapa family-especially Jaiden's mother. I am a mother of 2 daughters myself and can't fathom your pain. Please know that you are in my thought and prayers. And that I kno your angel is now with the rest of the angels and they must have missed her her very much to call her back so soon.
Just wanted to say how sorry I am and to let you know you family is in our thoughts always
Holleigh,
I had recently read your article in the cabinet this past Thanksgiving about your Grammie. Please try and remember those same lessons of everlasting love now as you mourn for your daughter. She will always be looking down on you from heaven. Take out "A Message From Heaven" and read it again, knowing that now, that message comes from Jaiden as well.
"When you look to the sky
And see one stellar star
Shining down upon you,
Know that I am not far."
Holleigh and Family
I am so sorry for your loss. Although her life was too short she has touched so many of us in many ways. I hug my kids a little tighter and thoughts of her has helped to prioritize tasks after people.
You are in my thoughts I hope you are all able to find peace with this loss. Nothing will make it go away but if there is anything we can do loet us know
Holleigh, Paul and Family,
I do not even know how to express how deeply sorry I am for your terrible loss. Jaiden has touched so many of us with her strength. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kristine, Jeff and Katie Ebbert
Dear Tlapa Family,
You don't know me and I don't know you. Yet over these past two weeks I have found myself thinking of you and Jaiden quite often. I have felt a connection to you all that I have never known for folks I've never met. My first thoughts were to express my condolences to you for enduring what no parent should ever know, yet every parent fears the most; losing a child. Instead, I searched my heart for some acceptable reason for why such an obviously loving and wonderful family should carry this heavy burden. My heart answered and I would humbly like to share with you what it said. It said that heaven was in need of a truly special angel. One who could spread love and caring across all lines and borders known to man. An angel that could bring together an amazing number of people to join together for a common cause. An angel who would bring God Himself sublime happiness just to have her by His side. If my heart is true and right like I've always known it to be... May you all come again to know peace and happiness in your own hearts. I will not stop thinking about Jaiden and you, nor will I stop praying for you. God Bless.
Hi Talapa family I am sorry for your loss I know how it feels my uncle died 2 mounths ago from today. Even thow I did not know Jaiden I know she must have bean one couragous person to have to make it through such a tragidy as long as she did. I heard my sister Katie was a good friend with Jaiden my sister sais she will always remember her when she plays mom good by
Jeffrey Ebbert
Although I have never met your family, I feel deeply connected to you all. Not knowing what initially had happened, and seeing signs all over Milford, I "Googled" Jaiden's name. I came across the blog, and I have to admit that I checked it every day...multiple times...looking for news, improvement, encouragement.
I tried desperately to explain to my son, who is 3 years old, that there was a little girl who was sick that would love a hand-drawn/colored picture from him. Regretfully, he finished his "masterpiece" the day before Jaiden left this world. I would very much like to know where I might send his card/picture to...I realize it might not do much, but would love for it to be in the hands of the rightful owners.
Your plight has made me question my spirituality, and has made me realize that there is some devine power that commands all that occurs on this earth and beyond.
Jaiden appears to have been a truly special and wonderful little girl...now, please find peace that she is still that special wonderful being, only in the form of an angel who will constantly watch over you all and shed her light and love on you daily.
As much as you will miss her, please find some comfort that she is being well taken care of (and I'm sure she is doing plenty of taking care of others as well).
She seemed like such a vibrant child and I wish I could have met her in person...
Know that across the community, across the nation and world, hearts ache for your loss, yet rejoice in the fact that Heaven has received a TRUE angel.
Thank you for allowing Jaiden's progress to be posted online. It made me realize how precious everything is...you are a very brave and courageous family. I have a strong belief that your faith and devotion in God and your love for each other will help you through your darkest hour.
With love and support from Wilton
Sweet Jaiden,
I know in my heart there are angels walking among us because I teach some of the little ones everyday. You were one of my first angels and for that I will be eternally grateful. Thank you for teaching the teacher some of life's most valuable lessons. I will see you in the stars and feel you in my heart forever.
All My Love,
Mrs. Erb
Dear Tlapa Family,
I never knew Jaiden but I had the honor of meeting many of you in Childrens Hospital. My grandaughter was also a patient in ICU over Christmas and New year. I cannot tell you how sorry I am for your loss, but I know you still have an strong love of God and family that will get you through this. Go on in peace knowing she lived a wonderful life full of love and happiness and that the Heavens are blessed now that she is there. Her memory should not make you sad but happy that you had that wonderful time with her.
God bless you all. You are a wonderful family and deserve the best.
I just wanted to let you know that you are still in my thoughts and prayers. My heart goes out to you during this time of great loss.
When I first told my twin girls about Jaiden, they cried, but then one of them said, "But it is a happy thing for Jaiden, because she got to meet Jesus today!!" Amen.
My deepest sympathies go out to you. These last few days I have tried to find the good, the purpose in the this horrible tragedy. I know Jaiden has caused people around the world to stop and rethink their relationship with God and with each other. While the void Jaiden left will never truly be filled, I hope knowing that she has inspired many to be kinder, more loving and more faith filled people will ease your pain over time.
Paul, Holleigh and Lexie,
I read this poem and thought of you all:
____________
Don't Tell Me
Please don't tell me you know how I feel,
Unless you have lost your child too,
Please don't tell me my broken heart will heal,
Because that is just not true,
Please don't tell me my daughter is in a better place,
Though it is true, I want her here with me,
Don't tell me someday I'll hear her voice, see her face,
Beyond today I cannot see,
Don't tell me it is time to move on,
Because I cannot,
Don't tell me to face the fact she is gone,
Because denial is something I can't stop,
Don't tell me to be thankful for the time I had,
Because I wanted more,
Don't tell me when I am my old self you will be glad,
I'll never be as I was before,
What you can tell me is you will be here for me,
That you will listen when I talk of my child,
You can share with me my precious memories,
You can even cry with me for a while,
And please don't hesitate to say her name,
Because it is something I long to hear everyday,
Friend please realize that I can never be the same,
But if you stand by me, you may like the new person I become someday.
____________
I know that you all will do great things to honor Jaiden's life. So many families will benefit from the legacy of love you will build in her name.
Know that many of us are ready to stand by you as you grow into the people this tragedy has made you.
-a friend
I thank this friend for sharing this...as I wipe my own tears...I stand by ready to catch yours...
Another Friend
Dear Paul & Holleigh
I cannot express how sorry I am for the loss of your beautiful Jaiden. I have been heartbroken for you and your family since hearing about her accident, but was hopeful there would be a happy ending.
I know there are no words to take away or even help with the pain you are feeling right now. I just hope that there is some comfort in the fact that Jaiden is in a peaceful place right now and knowing that she truly touched the hearts of so many people - it is amazing to read all of the messages from the hundreds of people that have been touched by her short life.
Please lean on your family and friends during this terrible time in your lives - so many people love and care about your family. God bless sweet Jaiden.
Love
Kati (Reid) Winters
jaiden
you have touched so many hearts and the memories that you have left behind will be remembered forever and ever.the people that are alive today will be able to tell there grandchildren about how much of an amazing child you were that you could have the strenght to last that long. my love is with you in heaven and your family down here.we all miss you so very much. with love
amanda schwab
Hello Tlapa Family,
You touched us last year when you reached out to us when our little girl was diagnosed with cancer. You didn't even know us, but reached out to us when we were suffering.
My family and I were so saddened to hear (from Rachael) of such a tragedy happening to someone that touched us in our heartache. Please know that we are also here for you and treasure you even though we have not met. We are so sorry for your loss.
Jason Hennen and Family
www.caringbridge.com/visit/chelsiehennen
Jaiden has changed me forever. I have never been a very religious person, but in the past few weeks I found myself wanting to reach out to god and ask why? I found myself praying every day, hoping that it would make a difference. Know that Jaiden has touched so many people in a way that can't be explained in words. As a mother, I cry for you, and cannot imagine the pain you are feeling, I want to reach out to you and help you. Know that you are in my thoughts everyday.
I read Jacqueline's message to us all and I wanted to pass on one simple phrase that I shared with her in an E-mail and conversation a few days ago, and asker her to pass on to Holleigh and the Tlapa's. I expressed my overwhelming disbelief in the way Jaiden brought so many pepole together for one common cause. To all who search for a reason, a justification, remember one thing. It may not cure the pain, but, may at least ease it somewhat...
Isaiah 11:6
"...and a little child shall lead them!"
To the Tlapa family,
On behalf of the entire town of Medfield, please understand that we were all so heavy hearted to learn the sad news about Jaiden. She has brought so many communities closer together. She will never be forgotten.
We pray that peace arrives soon for your family!
I am so sorry. My husband is currently stationed in Iraq and saw your article online. He went to high school with you and wants you know you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
Dave, Roberta Jenkins and family
Tennessee
I've never met you but I wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of all of you. I hope in time, the happy memories that you have of Jaiden will bring you comfort.
I am deeply sorry for your loss. I only learned of what happened yesterday. You may not remember me but I worked as an aid at the daycare in the infant room when Jaiden attended as a baby. Her gorgeous smile and happy attitude made me want to come to work. I loved working with her and as I can see in the pictures, she grew up to be a wonderful and beautiful little girl. My prayers are with your family at this time. I am blessed because my life was touched by hers.
My prayers go out to the entire Tlapa family, both immediate and extended. I believe she is the most loved and best known 8 year old in the world today, based on all the wonderful comments. This is a distinction that we would all like not to have been given this beautiful little angel. As I read the poems and songs, I remembered the story of Horatio Sparrord, who in 1873 sent his wife and 4 daughters back to England on a ship to visit family; he was to join them later. On the trip across the ocean their ship was struck by another vessel and his 4 daughters drowned at sea. When Horation sailed on the next ship to England, he passed the area where his daughters lost their lives, and he wrote these words, which later became a spiritual hymn:
When peace like a river attends my way;
when sorrows like billowing seas roll.
Whatever my lot, God has taught me to say:
It is well, it is well with my soul.
Jaiden, peace now does attend your way, and all is well with your soul. God speed, angel of Milford, God speed.
we are very sorry for your loss. you went through a rough journey. we are thinking of you always. all though I never knew jaiden, I will still remember her.
gina buzzetta and family
Holleigh, I am so sorry. There are no words I can say except my heart brakes for you and your family. Me and your SG sisters are praying for you all. ((((Hugs))))
Kristine
We are so sorry for your loss. We will always have Jaiden in our thoughts and hearts.
With Love,
The Dupuis Family
You're in my heart and my thoughts.
many thoughts ... many prayers
May the peace and love of Christ be of some comfort to you today and always.
Holleigh,
You are still in my thoughts and prayers every day. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you.
Since we heard about the accident we have been praying for your family. I think about how you are doing every day and can't begin to imagine your pain. Jaiden looked like a beautiful child from her pictures. I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
Thinking of you all today, and every day.
Think of you all everyday, hoping you are making in through somehow. Please know that are thoughts and prayers are with you...
We think of you all and of Jaiden everyday. We'll never forget her. She will be in our hearts forever. Jaiden has left a permanent imprint on our community and the world.
Although the messages seem to have slowed down a bit....our prayers and thoughts of you all have not. Please remember to be as strong as you possibly can. You are - and have been on my mind every day, every night, and every morning.
Remembering Jaiden is the easy part because she has left us all with the reminder that we should live life to it's fullest and let faith guide us. It is not that Jaiden was special, as much as, it is that Jaiden IS special. We can keep her memory alive by living our best life and making her proud. I will always hold her memory dear to my heart. Thank you Holleigh and Paul for sharing her with all of us.
Thinking of Jaiden now & forever,
Linda
Dear Talpa Family,
I have just learned on Saturday that there are Prayers for Jaiden braclets and I have been one to have gotten mine already. I carry Jaiden and your family on my left wrist(nearest to my heart) forever.
Although the messages have slowed a bit. We are all holding you in our thoughts and prayers everyday. there is not a day that goes by that i dont think of your family. Jaiden was sent as a gift of God and she has shown us all that life is precious. Your family will always be in our hearts and minds as you all work through the greiving process. Please remember that you and your family are a part of us. We continue to carry you through this time.
May God watch over you all and help you through this time and forever as Jaiden will live on in your memories forever. And all of us will carry the memories of what a great community we live in.
May you know when you see the ribbons and braclets that Jaiden has touched so many lives.
Keep loving one another and helping each other as your family is a strong one.
Thinking of you today and always.
To Holleigh and Paul and the entire Tlapa Family-
I just finished watching tonight's episode of "Extreme Makeover Home Editon", and tonight, it was for a family in Manchester. My family and I went to watch the building in person back in October when they were building. The big thing they emphisized tonight was community, and the strength of comminuty.
It reminded me so much of you and your family, and of Jaiden. Seeing the community rally around a family, a family so deserving of such support.
I still think of Jaiden every day, and know I hold my own children closer each day in her memory.
Thank you for sharing her story with us.
With love and prayers-
The Cohen Family
Dear Tlapa Family
Although you don't know us we wanted to let you know how sorry we are for your loss. While there is nothing we can say that will ease your loss know that we are grieving and thinking of you all. Jaiden's life had a profound impact on our family. Jaiden will never be forgotten.
We care and are concerned about your family. Let us know what we can do. We hope you will find again peace and joy within yourself and your wonderful children.
Holleigh and Paul, thank you for allowing us to learn about Jaiden. Alexeigh, Aspen and Gage stay strong.
Kinga, Michael and Brenna Gase
Milford
Please know that Jaiden is always in our thoughts and prayers. We wear our ribbons as a reminder of what a special girl Jaiden was, and the profound impact she had on our community. We are forever grateful to you for sharing your daughter with us. God bless all of you.....Kevin, Sally, Caitlen, Anna and Morgan
Jaiden has made me a better Mother to my 3 sons. Because of her I make it a point to get down on my knees and be at eye level when I speak to them. I make it a point to tell them and show them how loved they are every day. And when I do get angry with them, I let them know why and then I also let them know that I'll always love them no matter what. Jaiden's spirit lives with me now and forever. I realize that is probably little comfort to you, but please know that she IS a continuing force in my life. I hope that you are finding small comforts eash day to get you through and I pray for your continued healing as you create your new reality. God Bless You All.
Paul, Holleigh, Lexie, Aspen and Gage,
We still think of Jaiden everyday, throughout the day. We remember her wonderful spirit and bubbly enthusiasm and we smile. Jen asked the other day at what point we would have to remove the ribbons from the Oval. I told her I was not sure but it would not be soon. Eventually the weather will take it's toll and dictate when the ribbons must come down around the Oval, but the ribbons in our hearts will never fade.
Jaiden's ribbons have gently wrapped around the hearts of thousands of people throughout the world. Those touched by her ribbon of love will never be the same. Her ribbon has left an impression that will never be forgotten. It has made us all a little more patient, a little more caring, a little more grateful for all we have everyday, in short it has made us all better people. Jaiden's ribbon of love will flow without end through the acts of kindness and love performed by those she has touched.
We are among those she touched, and it is for this reason that we know she will never be forgotten.
Love and Prayers,
Mike, Kathy, Sarah, Jen and Jack
Holleigh and Paul,
I just want you to know that I have been thinking about you and your family constantly. I think about sweet Jaiden and know that she is watching from above. I hope and pray you are able to take some comfort in that. I also think about what you said about promising to be okay somehow. I know you will incorporate Jaiden's memory in all that you do. I know you will! Jaiden will never not ever be forgotten.
Because of Jaiden, there are thousands of people praying, helping others, hugging their children more and being nicer.
I know, because I am one of those people.
Continue to be strong! I know you can do it!
Love, Geralyn and family
I see Jaiden ribbons all over Milford cars and mailboxes and frequently lay my hand on the one on our kitchen counter - it's next to my husbands mini travel bible. I "talk" to Jaiden each time I touch the ribbon sticker, see one on a car or wear my church coat with a Jaiden ribbon on it. Most of the time I just say "Hi Honey" or "We'll never forget you". Jaiden did more to bring Milford together than anyone else in its history did. Thank you Jaidan.
Grammy Denise (Lauren Nay's Grandmother)
Prayers for Jaiden Bracelets?? Where can we get them?
Jaiden has taught us all a beautiful lesson, not to take a single day for granted. I'd love to have a bracelet as a reminder of her and that fact..
Dear Tlapa family I just wanted to write and let you all know that you all are in our thoughts and prayers everyday,Jaiden has touched so many of our lives forever...Holliegh with just a few words that you wrote on the blog you made my healing begin with the passing of my sister.I hope you can remember all the wonderful times and hold them close.You are a wonderful person ..God Bless you all..
Love The Merrills
Dear Holleigh, Paul and Family - Jaiden's spirit is alive and her memory eternal, but her physical presence is intensely missed. Please know that we pray for peace, strength, comfort, guidance and understanding at this most challenging time. We are here for you.
Prayers for Jaiden Wristbands are available in sizes Medium & Large at Souhegan Cycleworks and Amigos Mexican Cantina on the Milford Oval. For larger quantities, we recommend ordering through email.
Thanks for your support!
Jaiden has left a mark in many hearts we all miss her. She has taught us a valuable lesson. Jaiden will be in our hearts forever.
I was sitting here tonight and thinking about you all. I know this is a difficult time for all of you, but I hope you know that you are always in my thoughts and prayers. I may not write each night but not a day goes by that I don't think of each and every one of you.
Always
cheryl
Hi there Holleigh, Paul, Lexi, Aspen and Gage --
We have been thinking of all of you and have been each day. We hope that as each day passes you are aware of how many people are still thinking of you and saying prayers for you. Jaiden has brought so many together in her name and will continue to do so for a very long time to come. Gordon talks a lot of holding her when she was a baby and what a delightful little girl he thought she was. We hope to be part of those who will be helping in the Jaiden Tlapa Foundation and look forward to helping. Love to you all -- you are in our hearts and prayers. Gordon and Ellen Daly.
I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of all of you. I hope you are able to get comfort from those around you.
Dear Tlapa Family,
It's me Jen. I want you to know I will always remember Jaiden because I have a bear I named for her. I sleep with her every night. I talk to her and tell her how much I miss her and that I will never forget her. Talking to my bear Jaiden makes me feel like my friend Jaiden is still close by. I know Jaiden is close by and is watching over me. I know she can hear me when I talk to her also. In my bed I always leave a spot for Jaiden. I put one regular pillow and my prayer pillow in the spot and then put an angel bear there. I'm happy that my last memories of Jaiden are playing with her at recess because that is how I will always remember her. I have memories of Jaiden all the way back to when we were four years old so I have enough memories to last me for my whole life. I will always keep my Jaiden bear so I will never forget Jaiden. Jaiden will be my friend in my heart forever.
I hope you have lots of happy memories of Jaiden too that will make you feel better.
Love,
Jen
Hi Tlapa Family,
It's Sarah, Jen's Big Sister. I know that people will always remember Jaiden because she was so loving. Jaiden will always live in my heart. When I close my eyes I picture Jaiden playing softball and soccer. Jaiden was an amazing athlete and an even more amazing friend to those that knew her. Whenever I am lonely I feel like Jaiden just flies down and is with me. Even though I did not know her well I still know what a great person she was. One thing that will always make me remember Jaiden is my sister's bear. She carries it with her all the time at home. Every night I make sure I say good night to Jaiden and I always help Jen take care of her Jaiden Bear. We never leave her on the floor and always make sure she sitting up right. I am going to name my next webkinz after Jaiden. I think a lot of people will name their stuffed animals, their webkinz, a lot of things after Jaiden! Especially the people that were lucky enough to be a part of her life. I have so many reasons that people will always remember Jaiden that I cannot even list them all here but one thing that I can say is that Jaiden gave so many people so many great memories that they will last a lifetime.
Love,
Sarah (Jen's Big Sis)
Dear Tlapa Family,
As you have probably seen the braclets mentioned in this post. I an so humbled by the thoughtfulness of the younger generation. They have taken something so sad and turned it into something so meaningful. They wanted to be able to help your family in a very tough time. And in doing so they have helped to carry on Jaidens memory. To me something so simple has shown what kind of kids we have in our community.
May you all feel the love being sent your way as you see the ribbons, postings, and braclets. We all carry Jaidens memory with us each and everyday.
God Bless you tonight. May you have had a day of peace.
Thinking of you tonight and every night. "May you feel the love tonight"
A very proud member of The Jaiden Lyndi Tlapa Team.
Holleigh and Paul,
Just thinking of you tonight just as I do everyday. Honestly not a day passes that Jaiden and your family are not in my thoughts and prayers.
I feel so blessed to have been able to share a brief amount of time in Jaiden's life.
Please know that Jaiden is such a big part of this community, state, country and world, and that she will never be forgotten. Your family's story has forever changed so many peoples lives.
Just know that the sun still shines, the stars are still bright. I know right now it may not seem that way, but someday you will enjoy these things again.
You will smile again, you will carry on, and it will all be in Jaiden's name.
The Jaiden foundation is going to be so amazing. I'm looking forward to hearing the stories of the families that you help in Jaiden's name.
xo,
Jacqueline
Kyle says he remembers Jaiden as one of nicest girls in his class. Every night when he says his prayers he still includes Jaiden and your family in them as do we all. I will always remember her as the little girl that touched so many hearts and brought faith back to so many people. I also learned that she liked the Jonas Brothers and so now whenever I hear their song "Time for Me to Fly" I will always think of her.
Shane, Judy, and Kyle Hooker
Thinking of you today and everyday.
May you have only happy memories today and everyday.
Lexi, Gage and Aspen,
May you continue to heal. May your memories be only of the happy times and not the sad ones. Your sister loved you all. As you love her. With all your heart.
Holleigh and Paul,
May your days be filled with love and laughter. Jaiden is with all of us in spirit and memories.
At a time when it is still so hard to remember all the love and laughter she brought to your lives. Because the sadness is still so very fresh it is sometimes very hard to remember this.
You remain in our thoughts and prayers forever.
A proud member of Jaiden's Team
Holleigh,
i have not actually had the opportunity to meet you or your family but,yet somehow i feel as though ive known you for a life time ever since i heard about Jaiden. It broke my heart to hear what happened and even more so when i found out you lost her. I personally think of you,your family and especially Jaiden every day and night. Every place i go there is always someone talking about her. She was definately a special and unique child that will never ever ever be forgotten.
kathy Donovan
What Hurts The Most-Rascal Flatts
What hurts the most
Was being so close
And having so much to say
And watching you walk away
And never knowing
What could have been
And not seeing that loving you
Is what I was trying to do
It's hard to deal with the pain of losing you everywhere I go
But I'm doin' it
It's hard to force that smile when I see our old friends and I'm alone
Still harder, getting up, getting dressed, living with this regret
But I know if I could do it over
I would trade, give away all the words that I saved in my heart
That I left unspoken
Holleigh, Paul, Lexi, Aspen & Gage,
I wanted to let you know you are all in my thoughts everyday. Jaiden is forever etched in my heart, I have so many memories like when she would yell up to me at the front of the bus to switch seats so that she could sit with Maddie & Mary, or when Mrs. Colburn came on the bus to speak to the students & you here Jaiden yell Hi to Mrs. Colburn or when she was telling me a story about the high school & got so passionate about it she was talking so fast I had to ask her to slow down but it made me laugh. These memories I take with me everyday.
May god surround your family with peace & shelter you with his enduring love & know that your beautiful angel Jaiden is right
there with him. I pray that you can find some comfort & peace with every passing day.
Love,
Kelly Lacasse & Family
Forever in my prayers......
Hello
Again I find my self reading over the posts to all of you. They make me wonder how you all are doing. I pray every day that you find peace. Jaiden is with us every moment of the day and night. She watches over us all. She has and will continue helping all of us.
Yesterday I was grocery shopping. I met a women who was eager to talk. I told her of Jaiden and she told me that she lost a child as well. She had a form of ataxia and they were told she wouldn't live to see 20. Her child lived until she was 30 years old. She was blessed these 30 years but she said that the pain of losing a child seems unbearable no matter how old the child is. With my willingness to share Jaidens story I feel it was a gift to this women to be able to talk to someone who was able to hear her pain. Through Jaiden I was able to be there for this women. She needed to have someone to listen and believe me it was the longest shopping trip I ever had. Close to 3 hours.Can anyone beat that? Seriously, Jaiden will live on in us to the end of time. She made PRAYER common place in our lives and the PRAYERS we spread to others are forever there.
Take all the time you need to heal. I pray that you all have someone that really listens.
Feel peace in knowing that Jaiden will live on in each and every one of us.
Hugs,
Nancy
Dear Jaiden,
You were the manifestation of love
First of God
then of your parents
And you taught us
lessons,
some without ever
meeting you
about the love that brought you here
quietly
In your silent way
you reminded us to love
each other in a world
that daily takes one another for granted
like days without end
that always end
to our surprise
You gave words
prayers, dusted off, long-found like buried treasures
to those whose hearts
were covered with the
soil of being
too busy for God
You took words
away
when you left
as evening robs the vibrant strains of day
and we are left
in this
gloaming
And I sit here
mourning you
with tears
always the gift
of having loved well
I will remember you Jaiden
in love, in deeds
washing over those I
love
like the tide
connected to the shore
holding the hand
of sand
of God
of you.
Thank you
precious child
With love, so much love, so much sadness, so much hope, so much faith,
MC
We are thinking of you tonight. We pray for you everynight.
Jaidens memories will live on.
May you know that not a day goes by that we do not think about your family.
Thank you for sharing your lovely daughter with all of us.
May her spirit live on in all of you.
Holleigh, Paul and kids
I don't know you but I have been reading this site for awhile. I was shocked when I read Jaiden had passed away. I wanted to post a comment earlier but was at a loss for words. I can't imagine losing one of my own kids. I think of all of you every day and wish there was something I could do. Jaiden touched so many hearts these past few weeks. Mine as well. Not a day goes by that I don't hear a song that puts a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes. Here's a few verses from one I felt deserved posting.
Fly To The Angels
Pictures of you
They're still on my mind
You had the smile
That could light up the world
Now it rains
It seems the sun never shines
And I'll drive down
This lonely lonely road
Ooh I got this feelin'
Girl, I gotta let you go
Cause now you've got to fly
Fly to the angels
Heaven awaits your heart
And flowers bloom in your name
You've got to fly
Fly to the angels
All the stars in the night
Shine in your name
You know it hurts me
Way deep inside
When I turn and look
And find that you're not there
I try to convince myself
That the pain, the pain
It's still not gone
And still I drive down
This lonely lonely road
Ooh I get this feelin'
Oh, I can't let you go
But I know you've got to fly
Fly to the angels
Heaven awaits your heart
And flowers bloom in your name
You've got to fly
Fly to the angels
All the stars in the sky
Shine in your name
Spring is on the way and I'm sure many,many flowers will bloom in Jaidens name.
May God and Jaiden bless you all.
MC (NI,NH)
I met you once Holleigh. I wish it was for a different reason.
These posts keep saying that peopole "feel the pain you are going through" and they "hope it gets better." I am not sure that most people really can comprehend what you are feeling right now. It will get better though. Your anger and frustration will slowly be replaced with incredible memories and hope. Daily sightings of ribbons and wristbands will give you a feeling of pride rather than sadness. Pride knowing that your little girl was sent here for a reason. She was yours, but, was meant to be a message to all of us.
Forget the bickering about where to put and not put signs and argue about which street lights leave up and which to take down. Take a moment to say thank you to one another and remember how precious life can be. Get together for a common, useful goal rather than a meaningless decision for the purpose of argument more than anything.
A message has been sent because of little Jaiden. Be sure to embrace that and take pride in the fact that it was you and your family that brought a community of 15,000 people together and thousands more thoughout the State of New Hampshire, the United States and the rest of the world. Very few people in history have done that. Your little girl is one of them now. Let the good replace the bad and look at the result rather than the accident.
No one, or very few, can comprehend your loss and I am not even going to pretend to know what you are feeling. I just know that I have become part of a "Team" as many have put it. And, I am very proud of what I have become as a result of all of this. Jaiden's message will live on. It is a powerful one. Be proud of the messenger. Stay focused on the result.
We are all praying for you and your family. May you see the message and emrace it. Thank you for letting us continue to be a part of it.
Jaiden, we all really miss you
Jaiden, we all really miss you
We miss you.
you and me were like sisters
you and me were like sisters
Just sitting hear and was thinking of you and the rest of the family. THought I would send a small message saying you are on my mind today and everyday.
love Mrs. Grigas
Jaiden had more love and support then most people dream of.
<3
So many times everyday we stop and think of Jaiden and you all. Our prayers and tears still flow with every thought.... you all and Jaiden will be in our thoughts and hearts forever.
Love and Prayers,
Mike, Kathy Sarah, Jen and Jack
my girl-scout troop&some juniors made contaners to get some gas cards for you but before some of us could get them some us could get sopts for them jaidens had her loss. we are sorry for not geting them out fast,but we made a HUGE card for her. hope you like it and i know jaidens memory will live on forever.peace be with you all
I am speech less every dayc I think about Jaiden every day home and not at my house. I am so sorry
love Michael
as majestec as a swan, as stunning as a dimond,jaiedn will live in all as both forever will she be known as dimond child.
It is now much later in the year nevember 2nd to be exact and i can't tell you how much I miss you dear sweet Jaiden! I'm Morgan Stephens for your soccer team fire the autum before the accident. i made a cut out jaiden ribbon out of paper and I pray to that at night knowing that you are there listening! I love you jaiden and you all tlapa family I wish you sweet dreams and happy thaughts for ever and ever goodnight!I love you all!
Morgan Stephens
i miss you angel jaiden.
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